What is Conscious Communication? And... Why should you care?
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Would you like to be able to say what you mean and mean what you say? To speak your thoughts from a place of clarity of mind and centeredness rather than from reactionary drivel spurred on by emotions run amok?
What would that look like for you? How do you feel others would respond to you if they felt you were fully present and truly hearing them?
Not categorizing, not jumping ahead, not judging but rather solidly and patiently present with them.
How much of your words arise from past experiences, from conditioned responses to certain situations, or from wanting to appear a certain way? Where is the authenticity behind your words?
Communication becomes much less stressful when it comes from conscious thoughts with conscious intentions. There is much less possibility of miscommunication of your actual thoughts or hearing something different than the words and intent behind the words being shared with you by another. Communication is always an exchange of much more than words. There are non-verbal cues. There is the energy of intent. And there is the space available between the people communicating. This space is directly proportionate to the ability of each individual to hold mental silence while the other is speaking. This creates an opening for sharing on all levels of communication.
Do you know how to be silent when someone is speaking to you? What does that mean?
It means you aren’t categorizing what is being said. You aren’t judging content. You aren’t jumping to conclusions about where the conversation is headed. You aren’t planning your response in advance. You are instead engaged in active listening and sharing space (physical, emotional, and mental) while in the flow of varied exchanges that are experienced within a conscious conversation.
How does one develop skill in conscious communication?
It starts with developing awareness of one’s own thoughts and intentions. Becoming hyper vigilant about the words you are using and how they are shaping the world around you.
What beliefs are you holding?
- Beliefs about yourself.
- Beliefs about others.
- Beliefs about the “realities” of the world.
- Beliefs about life itself.
All of these beliefs will influence your communication. Most of which happens on the subconscious level.
How do we discover what is hidden below the surface?
We are all very clear about what makes up the tip of the iceberg but how do we map out and comprehend what exists beneath the tip we have managed to expose and see? How do we see all? Meditation. Love of self and others. Forgiveness. Most thoughts stem from past experience or future concerns. If we release the past and let the future reveal itself from moment to moment the mind becomes very quiet. Communication becomes a joyous sharing of new moments. Fresh eyes make all you come across interesting. You are free to communicate in new ways. You can now be moved by new topics and different types of people.
How do you think it would feel to communicate with someone without judgment or agenda? Do you think it could be you? What would you imagine to be important to one engaging life on that level? How about freedom? Openness? Lightness? Spaciousness? Centeredness? Do you think there would be space for fear? Disappointment? Indecision? Judgment? Worry? What do you think the world would look like if that level of communication was the standard for day to day communication globally?
As you begin looking into your communication patterns, a journal may be a useful tool to keep track of patterns, epiphanies, and new commitments.
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